Jeff...ok, that helps a bit. I thought that perhaps her mother literally had directed her towards what was proper and what was not, generationally speaking. So she's simply using that phrase as a safety umbrella...that would be so frustrating. (just smacked my punching clown for you).
Have you asked her what her "ideal" marriage includes? I'm just curious in her mind what that would include...if you haven't asked that question...do you think she'd honestly answer it?
