Quote: The truly hard part was getting him to see what he was doing to himself, me, and our relationship. I hate to put it this way...but he truly was "clueless" until that lightbulb came on.
That's the trick I've been struggling with for years: how to get the lightbulb to come on. I've told her both in words and in actions that I'm not happy with the sitch. But I don't think she's made the leap from knowing to understanding (if that makes any sense). At least I hope that's the case. The only other alternative is that she knows and understands, but just doesn't care.
Your small steps are encouraging. You may never actually get where you want to be, but it must help a little to know that he's making an effort.
