We may have to agree to disagree on that point. Having been on the other side of the fence myself. I didn't view myself as a roommate when I was LD. I mean I showed my H affection/love in many other ways, I just didn't enjoy sex....but now that I'm the HD I can certainly see how it feels like you are living with a roommate. I've thought the exact same thing myself...in fact I've voiced that same thing on these boards :-)
That brings me to a thought though...here it is..ready or not.
My LDH loves me, I know he does....but he shows his love for me in many other ways besides sex. He does so many things around the house for me without me asking repeatedly, or asking at all. And gives me things anytime I mention I might like something (materialistally). For some people showing their love in that manner is so easy. It's actually allowing themselves to be vulnerable emotionally that is the impossible thing...that's what my LDH is currently in counseling for.
He has the approach that I show you I love you because I give you...(whatever he's bought me that week)...whereas I come from I don't know that you love me because I don't get (physcial affection/emotional intimacy). That's where our major void is.
Is it possible that your LDW is afraid to be vulnerable to you?
Anita - taking her own opinion with a grain of salt.
