I too am fairly newlywed...we just had one one year anniversary, and have been together two and a half. I know how that rejection feels and it SUCKS! to be blunt. I got to the point recently where I felt like if I initiated sex one more time and was rejected/ignored I would simply explode or melt into a weeping mass of goo on the floor out of despair. My ego simply could not take it anymore so I emphatically decided...no more initiations!!! It didn't work for me though...when I didn't initiate and life kept going on my LDH figured everything was ok (even though I have explained time and time again that I need physical affection/attention, i.e. ML). It became a vicious cycle...If I brought it up, I was nagging...if I initiated, it was pressure...if I did nothing, he did nothing and thought everything was hunky dory.
Have you picked up a copy of SSM? When I first discovered this site I was in COMPLETE despair, I knew my marriage was heading towards Splitsville. My husband kept telling me how much he loved me, but by his actions I would never have known.
We are finally headed on the right track...no, we're not boinking like bunnies (yet) in fact we rarely do that at all...but he's working on it...we're working on it. But to get us to this point it took me facing my fears of conflict and telling my husband point blank that we had to do something because I would not live the rest of my life celibate. I know some people can somehow manage to do that when other parts of their relationship are really great, but I simply cannot, I'm very much a sexual being.
Anyway...now that I've already made this far too long I purchased the SSM book, read it thoroughly (3 times) and highlited the portions of it that really hit home with me. Fortunately my husband is fairly open minded so I was then able to ask him to read the book (he hates to read, so getting him to do this was a real accomplishment) and asked him to highlite what he connected with as well...if anything. I had no idea if he was even reading the book, he never said a word to me about it...but eventually (about a month and a half later...slow reader ) he brought it back as I had asked...with notes in it and agreed to attend counseling with me.
Anyway...I may have lost my point here...but for me not initiating sex didn't work...it only frustrated me more, causing even more resentment. Now that he's attending counseling we're discovering underlying reasons why he never initiates, or thinks about sex so we're able to work on it.
I really wish you guys the best of luck...this message board has been really helpful to me for ideas and support, so hang in there...there is hope!!
I purchased the SSM book, read it thoroughly (3 times) and highlited the portions of it that really hit home with me. Fortunately my husband is fairly open minded so I was then able to ask him to read the book (he hates to read, so getting him to do this was a real accomplishment) and asked him to highlite what he connected with as well...if anything. I had no idea if he was even reading the book, he never said a word to me about it...but eventually (about a month and a half later...slow reader 
) he brought it back as I had asked...with notes in it and agreed to attend counseling with me.
