You're right about the different perception of frequency from the LD spouse. As I've mentioned before, I do keep score. I haven't done it in several years, but I have actually marked a calendar in the past. When the first C asked about our frequency I replied that I got a HJ about once a month (just after her P) and actually ML maybe twice a year. W didn't have numbers, but was incensed. She insisted that it was much more frequent. Two years of marked calendars proved that I was correct. But the thing that really hit me was that she really believed that we did it much more often than we really did. Can you really not even notice that you haven't had any kind of sexual encounter in over a month?
