How to avoid need for desire?

[MJontheMend]

I would say if you are well differentiated you would want to have a lover but you wouldn't fear not having one. For example, if you were a neglected child you might fear that your parent wasn't going to feed you dinner, but if you were a well-cared for child you would look forward to your delicious, nutritious meal. Since you are actually an adult you can prepare your own meals and even share them with others. An extremely emotionally-fused person is like someone who hoards food in their closet or someone who is only capable of feeding themselves by begging for food from others.