Question to all Victims of Affairs....

[Nessie]

I have to start my reply by saying that HD and LD are as much a choice and decision as love and commitment. I have learned this the hard way.

Having children and an H who worked evenings I slipped into LD mode while H stayed HD. I then got into resentment for my loneliness with 8 years of this pattern.

When I found out about the affair, and before DB, I changed pace and H couldn't keep up. This has solidly reinforced for me the importance of sex and intimacy and the choices we make to create the moments.

Vanessa