I can not imagine your frustrations....but my H sure can. We went through a long period of time without sex. I think this happens to a lot of marriages. (He brought this up as a possible 'issue' even though we had resolved it years prior to the bomb.) During that time I think he must of tried every which way to get me interested but nothing worked for me. I should have sought out counseling but I was too stubborn and too embarrassed. I was just sure that NO ONE but me had this problem.
Long story short, it was all about ME. I had to work on ME. The work would have gone much faster with a counselor's help.....ah, hind site!
So you are one step ahead of the game. You have a counselor. Now, can you find a way to contact the counselor, either by phone, email, or make an individual appointment and let her/him know what is going on with the two of you? I think that the counselor would appreciate the information greatly. And it would go a long way in helping her/him help you.
