I think I read in one of your comments on Deb's thread that you didn't currently have a thread, so I am asuming that this is a new thread for you??
I am certainly no expert on this HD/Ld situation but I am kind of sitting in the same boat.
When a casual friend of mine recently found out that H and I were sep she told me that she and her H had been sep for 20 months back a couple of years ago. They got back together, but now their M is completely devoid of intimacy. That just made me sad.
I don't say this to be mean or judgemental, but it sounds like you and your H could really benefit from some professional help in this area. I do not think that a sexy nightie is going to do the job. Also take a peek at my post on Deb's thread today.
