41: You are right, in the past I have said things to him about why I think he may have done or said something and he has immediatley glommed on to the suggestion as his own. I will not bring it up. We do not have individual counseling now, it has been joined together, so I am at a loss as to how to get counselor to bring this up, or to do it myself. All I know is that I need to fix this for me to be happy. He seems to take his cues from me and if I dont bring it up or initiate any intimacy, he thinks everything is good and goes on his merry way. I know I seem impatient but over 2 years is a long time to wait and also a long time to invest if in fact a mistake has been made. thanks everyone for all your ideas, I really am starting to look in different directions now. Keep the thoughts and idea coming please.
