Debra, you are in a tough situation. I would be suspicious also, but that is my nature. I don't like to feel taken advantage of.

It seems you have a good grasp of what to do. All I can offer is...
1. look for babysteps, they have saved me my sanity more than once.
2. set goals, they really are great to have to be able to monitor what you are doing.
3. Work on yourself. At least you know that you will be happier, and if it doesn't work, you can be the one to hold your head high and say that you did it.

Good luck. And get to the gym or out walking or whatever you want to do. Exercise will help you lose weight, raise your PMA, and give you more energy to keep going. (Listen to me. I know what I am talking about, even if I don't always follow my own advice...)

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