Hi Debra, just caught your thread here...I've appreciated your input so much on mine, so wanted to be sure to jump in. I find it interesting that we've both got similar issues in pretty long-term marriages. There has to be MLC stuff involved here with these guys! I'm facing some of the same stuff w/regards to ml w/H right now, and find myself becoming quite frustrated. It is a complete role reversal from how things were for years, so I can't help but wonder if maybe it's more of the "testing" behavior in my sitch. and a power issue as Maya mentioned here. I don't know what to suggest to you, in my case I'm trying to back way off of sexual stuff w/H.....I'm absolutely astounded that after years of complaining our sex life was non-exsistent, now it's "too much" and "insulting" to him???????go figure....although I think I'm going to let it ride for a while.
Have you read Sex-starved Marriage? I havent gotten all the way thru it, can't remember if you said on my thread you'd read it or not, but it has helped me to let go of many of my biases and preconceptions.
Honestly, at least your H came home (regardless of why he says he did) and left a long-term job to get away from OW. That is huge! Remember that they are in such an addle-brained state right now, that actions are what we need to pay attention to, not particularly what they say.
