What do you do when the OM's wife keeps calling for support? My W told him she was going to work on her marriage. W and I are moving and OM is acting like a baby. He is blaming everyone but himself for the pain he is going through. Now my W is struggling with the line of communication from their end of the spectrum even though she said that it was okay for OM's W to call. Do I stop? Therapist says that I have trouble making decisions. Well, I'm just trying to help this woman through a tough time. I don't want OM to leave his W because this may make my wife leave me for him. It is very, very, unlikely. W and I have been packing to move back to her parents over 400 miles away. I know that it isn't going to be easy for her to get over OM but I really feel she is trying. I do need to stop bringing up OM and his W's problems though because it stresses my W out. She even called OM's cell to leave a message that he needs to grow up and be at least human to his wife since his kids see this and it is a problem. I have told OM W that she needs to get DBing right now and work on herself. If he is going to be an infantile jackass, she can't control that. She needs to get away from him. Plus her calling me seems to be bothering her. I think that it is almost a cheeseless tunnel kind of thing. So I am going to probably have to let her work on it on her own. It is going to be hard, but in two weeks we are OUT OF HERE!!! NO more OM, and W and I can start working on making our relationship healthy again. I feel W and I are so close to making this work. I need to stop bringing up OM and his W and the affair, not that I bring it up for guilt purposes, but I know she is trying to get over it and that makes it harder. She goes back to work tomorrow and has said that she is not going to hunt him down to talk to him, but I fear he may hunt her down. I don't think I have to worry, but god only knows on this rollercoaster. She may come home tomorrow and threaten to leave me again. She has reassured me many times that this is not going to happen. Gotta stop worrying about her and him though right? Anyone out there want to take this one?
