Quote: --------- She's a bit behind the 8-ball here: How does she go from holding way back for years (which she admitted the other day for the 1st time) to being super hot sex kitten to convince me that it's different now? ---------
In order for that to happen, BOTH of you have to be committed to the change. Both of you have to understand that there will be miscommunications and misunderstandings. Both of you have to be willing to face them head on and take action.
Find out from her what caused her to withdraw and fix it once and for all time.
The newness of the positive change itself will wear off in time, and you both will be face to face with the potential to repeat old mistakes. When you find that has indeed occured, be willing to talk about it and fix it immediately. The vicious circle that got your relationship wrecked to begin with is just waiting in the wings for you. Recognize it and avoid it like the plague.
My wife and I are still working through all this, but we are doing very well. It will take some more time for all the 'nastiness' to be a distant memory, but making that distance real is OUR goal.
Hang in there! -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
