Hey Barn! Sounds like things are going well in your neck of the woods.
I would start very small with your requests from your W, so as not to overwhelm her and ruin what little confidence she is working with. You might want to ask her to: Initiate! Nothing tells you that she is in favor of the program as much as this. Write you a sexy note (or a semi-sexy note) and put it in your lunch. Things like that...you know, she doesn't have to morph into some sex freak--although I know you wouldn't complain.
Be sure to do lots of reassuring and let her know that you are looking for little things. OH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I almost forgot the most important: Compliment her liberally. When she makes a move, no matter how small, acknowledge it and praise it. Don't go overboard so that she gets the idea that you are happy with little things and there is no motivation to do any more. But be sure to acknowledge it and praise it and then drop it. This works really well in my marriage, although I have mentioned a time or 100 that I have to KEEP doing this indefinitely it seems!
Above all, I would try and stress to her that this is HER journey, not yours. You can give hints of what you would like (to reassure her that you will indeed be happy with small gestures) but ultimately this has to be her path.
