Jo,
Yep, I came out of the closet. And NO, that doesn't mean THAT!

Things are OK. W & I have had a few talks, some good, some not so good. She's indicated that she understands and wants what I want. She's reading some in PM and TSSM which shows an interest in making things better.

I've made it clear that I want sex but not mercy sex (uninvolved and unenthusiastic). She's a bit behind the 8-ball here: How does she go from holding way back for years (which she admitted the other day for the 1st time) to being super hot sex kitten to convince me that it's different now? I see her dilemma and the pressure she's under, so I'm trying to provide some encouragement through non-sexual affection (which I had quit altogether).

She will probably never understand my HD. And she's afraid of never being enough for me sexually ("You want me to do WHAT?" ) But at least for now, she's not using it as an excuse to do nothing.

Thanks for asking. I've kept up with the board and read about your recent actions. Sorry it's come to this, but when you've done all you can, what else can you do?

I hope for better days ahead for us all.