Thought I did my last post on this board last night until I read that you're leaving the board. I wish you well. IMHO, I believe that your desire for a fulfilling sex life and for your wife to fulfill your sexual needs is reasonable and normal (and I say that not only as a woman, but as an evangelical Christian woman albeit a "baby" Christian still). Hopefully, prayer and perhaps talks with your wife and trusted friends and acquaintances (and/or maybe your pastor or counselors) will bring this to resolution. There's always hope.
Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. C. S. Lewis