Jo asked:
You have been quiet about your sitch. Any change? Last week she was a bit snuggly, this week?
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No change since the update of 6/1. She's acting like the victim since I said I wouldn't accept "mercy sex". It's like no sex is OK when it's her idea (or schedule, excuse, etc.), but when I say NO MORE, then I'm the bad guy depriving her of "unconditional love". We went through this once before a few years back (before I read PM) and it lasted 18 months, so I really don't expect any change.

As far as my insecurities are concerned, they are ALL related to not being wanted. I deal with thoughts of "if I was bigger, better,...blah, blah, blah". Other HDM here have indicated they have the same thoughts, so I guess it's common. That doesn't really help, though.

You have to guard against taking rejection personally. Your H is an idiot! That doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. Maybe you made a mistake by trying to rescue him, but, if so, it was made with the best of intentions (love). If there is anything to learn in this, it's that you can't rescue everyone and shouldn't try. Pick a better guy next time. BUT...you're a great lady who deserves to be wanted! You won't have any trouble finding a guy that thinks so. Don't allow yourself to have a problem believing it.

Mike - gives advice easily, but rarely takes his own advice