In high school I had a persistent obscene phone caller who once threatened to leave a jar of semen on my desk in Chemistry class. My 20th high school reunion is this summer and I've reached such a low point that I've actually started wondering who he was and whether he grew up cute.
Quote: pity sex is OK
..but OK sex is a pity.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Quote: In high school I had a persistent obscene phone caller who once threatened to leave a jar of semen on my desk in Chemistry class.
I bet you could have spotted him a mile away if indeed he was "working" on filling up that jar. One arm would be very muscular from all of the activity and the other one would be kinda limp for lack of exercise.
I'm seriously afraid my reunion may be a dangerous event for me. My sister graduated the same year so we plan on going together and leaving H and SO at home. I shall have to monitor my alcohol intake and watch out for any male classmates who aren't afraid to approach tall, smart girls with big breasts anymore. LOLOL
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
BTW, for those who may not know, every one of the PM principles are Bible based!
I haven't been much of a Bible kind of guy (victim of Vatican II sunday school) but I was recently at a wedding and the minister started quoting all this stuff about remaining true to yourself so that you have the strength to share but hold onto you blah blah. I nearly fell out of my chair. He could have been quoting Schnarch. Secondly, there are 2 counsellors in Dallas who have been certified (and some) in Crucible Approach. Suprisingly, they work at a really progressive Christian church. http://www.fbcdallas.org/ . Anyway, I nearly arranged an "intensive" with them. I'll see how our progress goes.
I guess my point is that the Bible really nails a lot of topics. I also think it blows a few too and leaves too much room for interpretation but I definitely becoming more and more impressed with it's timeliness. How can so many people be so "into" it but seem to get it so wrong? These are the freaks that have driven me away from organized religion. I'll just take my time, study and remain spiritual alone in the mountains (btw JC says mountains, deserts and water are great places for connecting with G). Add a series of near death experiences on a mountain bike and I'd say God is my copilot.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
Quote: ...One of the guys I work with brought me a CD to listen to. I can't remember the singer, but there's a song on the album called "Food and Pussy." The lyrics are pretty simple: "Food and Pussy, that's all I need. How come? 'Cause that's the way God made me." I plan to pop this little ditty into the CD player in the van when my W goes for a pee break on our vacation. Maybe she'll get the message when it's in musical form.
Hairdog - hummin'
oh she'll get the message alright. But how thrilled will she be to learn that her husband is about as complex and interesting as a basic farm animal? Never mind, she probably has already disovered that a long time ago.
Women thrive on drama and emotion, give her some and then post the results.
Oh, pleeeease!!!! If you aren't careful we will have to start calling you a woman basher. I know plenty of guys that are NOT gay that create more drama than any woman I know.....
Just for the record: W and I had another talk this weekend. It was one that we've had thousands of times before about what I'm doing wrong, not doing, etc. The gist of it is that if I'd just do everything she says/thinks/wants/needs then the world would be great. Mind you, her behavior wouldn't change no matter what I did, but me "being there for her" would make everything right. What she's asking for (in PM terms) is for me to be fused and take on her anxiety about (and agree to being the cause of) the problem du jour.
I did an excellent job (for me) of differentiating, staying calm, HOM and stating my position. I let her know that I was frustrated being in a R where I'm not wanted. She argued that point, but I pointed out that all I have to go on is her behavior toward me. (She hates to talk about behavior!) I pointed out that her not wanting me didn't mean she was a bad person, it just meant that she didn't want me.
Anyway, I let her know that I'm committed to the M for the sake of the kids and I would not be unfaithful to her. However, it would be unreasonable for either of us to assume that I'd be able to continue indefinitely in a M where I'm not wanted. (It was amazing how she tried to turn the convo to what I needed to do for her when I said that.)
Things have been pretty weird since then. She's moping around trying to get me to feel sorry for her. I can expect a big blow up in the next few days trying to get a rise out of me. In the meantime, she'll act depressed and neglect things so I can rescue her. (That proves that I see how bad it is for her.) But...it ain't gonna happen this time.
