Lemonade Lady wrote: Ok, I'm going to go against the crowd here and say, Who cares? So she lied about reading your book. The changes are still positive right? ____________________________________
I agree with you. The lie was no big deal to me. My disappointment was due to other factors.
The change in her behavior was great. It lasted two days and that's not uncommon for the changes she makes. The unusual part was that the change included touching me. Normally, it's more along the lines of being complimentary, which means very little to me (unless it's about sex).
It was 3 weeks from the time that she said she read my copy of PM to our talk. That's time to get her own copy if she wanted to.
The part of PM she read doesn't cover anything to lead to her touching me. So, I'm back to the same dilemma I've always had. Either she doesn't know what I want/need or she knows and chooses to not meet even my non-sexual needs. Since PM didn't tell her to and she didn't have to ask me, it's clear that she knows (and has known). Welcome back to the reality of her choice, Mike.
That's the part that hurts, and I'd guess it's the same for all of us. There's no talk I can have with her that will make a difference. She already knows what she needs to know. I suppose I hold out the hope that if I can just tell her the "one thing" to make her see, then everything will change and she'll become an instant HDW. That's got to be the ultimate cheeseless tunnel, huh?
I agree with you about me being upbeat with her. I have the same responsibility to love her whether I'm getting anything out of it or not. But it sure would be easier to do if I was.
BTW, W's behavior of last night and today is same as pre-PM convo. It was nice while it lasted.
Mike - who has great kids and lives a blessed life
