Mom, I have been reading about how difficult "child-centered" marriages can be. Just from your post, it seems like you may be in the child-centered place. A lot of us are. Specifically, read Dr. Shirley Glass' great book "Not Just Friends" for more info.
Are you making time for your R? Is your H's reaction to all the family events due to wanting more time with you, alone? Does he have any say in where and when the family goes places?
