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So, I take it you've been to retrouvaille. Was it recent? I've thought about it but since we are S, I didn't think it would have the same impact on us as someone who is "thinking" about it.




He dropped the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" bomb in mid January, moved out Feb 7, and we went to retrouvaille the last weekend in Feb. It really helped us reconnect and we were closer and felt more intimate with each other by the end of that weekend than we'd felt in years. I think retrou only works well if both of you go into it willingly and with open minds. It worked wonders for us. We'd be far down the road toward divorce -- or still completely foundering around -- if we hadn't gone.

Thanks for the advice. The trip came up last night and he's totally talking as though he's going now So I guess I don't have to dwell on that any longer!