There is a family reunion on my side of the family in August, and every time I brought up buying plane tickets, dh was very non-committal. I finally asked him if it was because he didn't really want to go or what? He said that it wasn't that he didn't want to go, but he feels uncomfortable with that side of my family in the first place (feels intellectually intimidated --as do I sometimes!) and if we were still separated, he'd feel even more awkward.
So....now we're not separated. How long should I wait before I bring up buying the tickets? I'm one of those people who likes to have everything planned and I don't want to wait too much longer, but I definitely don't want to pressure him!
Another question...dh and I are total conflict-avoiders. We figure this has to be a problem, yet several people who've been happily married for 25+ years have assured me they are exactly the same way. Do you think no conflict=no passion? I worry that this is part of the reason dh and I don't feel really connected, yet I can't manufacture conflict! The only real problem I have with him is that I do 90% of the housework stuff and he claims to have no problems with anything about me.
Retrouvaille gave us a great framework in which to resolve conflicts, but every time we look at the list of possible conflicts, we can't come up with anything we really feel strongly enough to "fight" about. Unless we're both in total denial. That's possible I suppose since we hate conflict so much. I'm so confused!
