Annalise Well the move happened, and over the course of the first 3 weeks back W threatened to leave twice and me once, but then God stepped in and said enough. OM backed out on W again. THey were communicating through E-Mail and she finally had enough. He was promissing her the "world", leaving his W and kids, getting them a place, and accepting her back. She was packed (w/ my help) and ready to go. I told her parents that I wasn't going to stop her and they shouldn't either. They did go and talk to her and by the time the conversation ended (I came in part way through) she had recieved a phone call from OM saying she should stay since he couldn't deal with me. I had called and told him he had better be good to her or I would be there the second she was hurt and I would come to fight. Kinda wierd since I am 5'4" 180lbs and he is 6'4" 240lbs, but he was worried about me.
That day we went to the chiropractor and she spilled all the truth. She said it was really over this time and she was going to work on us. We shared hopes and struggles and she was drawn closer to me than she ever has been. I think she understands that this man was a predator. Whenever she started to slip back towards me, he would hit her with messages on her cell phone, Text messages, or E-Mails. When we made the move she had 21 messages on her phone from the day before we left and the day that we moved and she got another 7 from him within 3 days of arriving at our destination. She said everyday that she checked her E-Mail there were 10-15 messages and pictures. All begging her to comeback and that he had made a mistake. Well he is right. He did and she has had enough.
We have had great times, good times and bad times. It all depends on the day. She needs to heal and I am trying to be as comforting as I can. I think she knows that I am the stable choice, and also the right choice. I also have gotten "I love you"s for the first time in a long time. We enjoy golfing, playing cards, and watching movies and our love life has rebloomed too. It is getting better. Now it is just a matter of waiting I think. She struggles with the memories of him and I told her she would. I also told her that she has gotten over other guys in the past and I know she can get over him too. Support is not hard to give, but I have slipped a couple of times because she sometimes wants me to feel sorry for her and I won't. I have told her I will be there for her and I will help her the best that I can, but it is up to her to put the memories of him in the back of her mind and start making memories of us again.
