Well more on W and OM sitch. Sunday, after wife had come home on saturday and told me OM was out, I got a call from MIL saying W was coming home with plans of leaving. OM had tracked her down at work and told her he was sorry and wanted it to work. He was going to tell his W and family he was leaving that night. I was furious and told MIL that I would not let her in the house. W got home I met her outside and had all the doors locked behind me. She said she was leaving, she didn't love me, and it was over because they were going to be together. W and I had talked twice during the day and she had said that she would be home and that it was still over. I was blown away, what a change of heart in less than 4 hours. I finally let her in and then took her cell and called him. He was telling his wife and kids when I called, then W called on other phone. We passed the phone around and argued and cried and I even talked to his W. I told her how long I had known and how I wish I would have come to her. After several hours of talking and crying and arguing, W and OM decided it was going to be too hard to make it work. W was very angry with him, but said that she was so pissed at him for backing out twice that she had no desire to even talk to him again. They did end up talking though because OM had left while OMW and I talked about sitch. I told her about DB and we went had very good conversation. By the end of the evening I had found out that my wife had lied about sleeping with OM. I had given her two days to take a break from family life last Wed and Thur and she had slept with him on the last night. Then when she came home and was miserable on Fri and I kicked her out W called OM told him to break it to his family and his family was crushed. He backed out on W and that is why she came back on Sat instead of going to Work. W almost instantly turned to me that evening. We made plans to move and are probably going to be out of here in 14 days. She put in her two week notice. I told my boss I was going. We reserved a U-Haul and contacted her family and told them we were coming back. W has seen that OM has his vices. He has been terrible to his W, blaming her for him losing his "lover". She has been hurt by that too. The way he talks about her, I can hear it through the phone when I talk to his wife, is appauling. He is being a big baby and my wife told her to call and talk to me whenever he needed too. OM has told his W that he is going to cut off her cell phone if he doesn't stop talking to me. I am basically telling her to be patient if she wants it to work. I really want her to hang in there for at least two weeks so W and I can get out of here. I think W is becoming angry because trust is down on OMW side and I keep trying to reassure that my W is not going to go back to him. I am very worried because they both will be at work together tomorrow and I think that he will try to contact her. W has promissed that it won't make a difference. I believe her, but of course I am still a little worried. He persuaded her twice to leave me and I am praying that the third time isn't a charm. What advice do I give W? I could probably meet her at W and make sure that OM doesn't try to sweep her off her feet. I may tell her to call me the second she gets off work and then she can tell him she is talking to me and has to go. I am a little scared, but fortunatly we have counseling today too. W was far more withdrawn this morning after last nights talk with OMW. I am trying to be supportive and tell her that I have faith in her (I always have, but I can't make the reality and pain go away. What do I do! Please let me know asap!
