Last night my wife said that she sees that I am doing lots of things to express love, but that she doesn't feel loved. She's not sure how much of that is due to me speaking the wrong love languages, bad experiences in the marriage, bad experiences in early life, or just a fear of letting herself be loved.
This feels real to me, I don't think she's making excuses. But it's really depressing to try so hard and have her not feel loved...
We'll keep working the love languages to see if she can identify concrete things that do make her feel loved.
