Quote: And, like the other night, her lack of excitement made it hard to be excited so I did exectly what I shouldn't have done...I closed my eyes and let my mind wander off and focused on the sensations and not the connection. I guess the hugging filled the emotion pot and then I was just horny. I also felt like I had something to prove to myself...that I could be done.
Maybe you could just think about her doing you in an unaroused state as being equivalent to her doing you in a sated state. If I do my H before he does me or we ML, I can more easily get into his experience and I become very aroused by doing him. If I do him right after I've orgasmed, I still enjoy it because of the feeling of power and giving pleasure to someone I love,but it's not always as arousing (sometimes it is and I convert a "do" into a "f" and get 2 for the price of 1 ). If she is willing to do you when she's not in the mood, maybe your reaction to the event could get her in the mood. You could try closing your eyes but verbalizing positive feedback. Don't say "Faster, faster" if she's going too slow, say " That's it baby, yeah, yeah, yeah" when she's got the right groove going.
OOps, I just broke my vow to not give advice about LD wives. Just take the above with a grain of salt and...
GO DAVE GO!!!
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
). If she is willing to do you when she's not in the mood, maybe your reaction to the event could get her in the mood. You could try closing your eyes but verbalizing positive feedback. Don't say "Faster, faster" if she's going too slow, say " That's it baby, yeah, yeah, yeah" when she's got the right groove going. 
