Quote: If she is going to "do" me, then I need to be able to give her "feedback" that it's spectacular and great and last night I couldn't physically do it...I tried to get my raging beast going but it wouldn't reach it's full potential. Only when we had sex, did it get super-hard. I can't believe I'm about to start having performance anxiety too
I've got to believe it can't be very erotic to get a handjob from someone who isn't aroused or becoming aroused by the act. Why should you tell her it's spectacular or great if it isn't? Even if she wasn't obviously bored doing it, she clearly wasn't indicating it was erotic for her on any level, so you were not able to enjoy the moment because you were concentrating on orgasming quickly in order to put an end to what was apparently a tedious task for her. I think she should make herself vulnerable for giving you a crappy handjob instead of making you feel vulnerable for not enjoying it.
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