Had good talk at dinner last night about PM. W has lots of assumptions that it's really a "logical book" for people who need to be told to "accept others for who they and learn to 'agree to disagree' peacefully" etc. I had to clarify the true nature of differentiation as "validating and soothing yourself while fearlessly and calmly being able to express yourself from a position of personal integrity". I also told her that my request to have her read PM and try to "push" it like I was was in direct violation of the principals it teaches. So I told her last night "take it or leave it...I don't really care if you read it or not...I'll just say that it made a significant impact on me and my relationship to others besides yourself." And really, I don't care if she ever reads it or anything else for that matter. I need to focus my energy on myself and my differentiation. Oddly, my request that she read PM was a fusion fantasy while my assertion last night (that I don't car) was an act of differentiation. I just wish I had more material to work with. We're both way too "easy going". We don't even care if she gets pregnant again or not in the next couple of years, hence our primitive form of birth control.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
