One of the things that I complained to our C about was the fact that I've lost a lot of respect for my W because of the "way" she lives her life (completely risk averse, fearful, etc). C said that it is possible that my W was attracted to the fact that I initially brought her out of her shell some (introduced her to snow skiing which she loves, etc.) and that it is possibly that I've gotten too extreme and confident and she is legitimately scared. I think the one discipline that will help me as a father while simultaneously helping my W feel "included" and "inspired" again is for me to learn to slow down, decrease my enthusiasm, and provide gentle encouragement...with an emphasis on "gentle".
At some point in our M, my W lost "trust" in me and what used to be "thrilling" to her, is now "scary". I think this might be the "neckbolt" of our entire bag of problems. That's why I'm going to pretend that we are dating again and I'm showing how to ski...but this time, it's ride a bike (which btw, she's very good at...when dating, we did these great urban assaults in downtown dallas in the parking garages etc.).
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
