Quote: My biggest challenge in our marriage will be to introduce her to the joys of mountain biking without overwhelming her. I can't help but think of Schnarch on his hikes when I think of climbing the North Georgia Mountains with my W. There is so much potential for joy in the accomplishment.
Dave, just be aware that some fantasies are not self-fulfilling, and some are destined to remain just fantasies. Nice ones, no doubt, but fantasies nonetheless. Take my model airplane hobby, for instance. W has not only expressed no interest in it, but actually negative interest. She does NOT like noisy, smelly, greasy, dangerous things, and she does NOT like model airplanes. Nothing about the hobby thrills her... quite the opposite - it seems to embody everything she DOESN'T like. So as much as I might want to share this with her, I accept that this is one area where we will forever be differentiated. I respect that, and I don't spend any time trying to convince her how much fun it is. She, for her part, knows how much joy it gives me, and how much fun I have with it, and she respects that. Intellectually she understands what I get out of the hobby, and how it challenges me, and she's fine with it, although she does sometimes complain about the money I spend on it. For my part, I try to make sure that most of the money I spend on it is "mine", such as birthday money, and other gift money, so it doesn't negatively impact our household budget.
I'm not suggesting you will not be able to share your hobby with your W, just that you should realize that this MIGHT be the case...
