Quote: I'm I nuts for wanting to be married to someone who makes demands of me?
No, I think that is a sign of differentiation because it means you are feeling strong enough to take on demands. I've often felt my marriage would be better if I wasn't too wimpy to make demands on my husband. It would be better if I was able to "hen-peck" him just a little.
P.S. Your new signature about therapy made me think of something. In "The Way of All Flesh" by Samuel Butler, he writes about a pre-Freudian 19th century therapy method to treat depression. The doctors would tell their depressed patients to seek out novelty by going to the zoo, looking at art or taking a European tour. I always thought this seemed like a great idea and it was too bad Freud came along and this method wasn't developed more fully.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
