As the LD spouse for a long, long time, I can most definitely say that change is possible and truly incredible. Not a day goes by that I am not grateful for the return of my sensuality, although now I have to deal with other issues including H's resentment and lack of desire for me...life's irony. Lat night we did ML and I tried to connect with him in a more intimate way through "really touching" and found, to my surprise, that not only was he not turned on by this, neither was I. I am ashamed to say I fell back to closing my eyes and letting my fantasy life take over...I am not sure what this says about me or our relationship.
