You actually are correct about her lame-o initiations...she's actually made a few. Tim's post made lots of sense and made me realize that I don't need to be going so fast. Heck, she's reading PM, ML a bit with (lame-o) initiation occasionally and seems to be making improvements. I think the next "topic" for us will be the 2 books on technique before we get into the "initiation" thing. I think that she will be a little more comfortable initiating if she feels confident in her ability to ML like a pro.
The whole initiating thing is a so weird and makes for some really bad feelings towards your spouse. I know it may appear that we seem selfish for wanting sex but sex is not exactly a bad thing. On the other hand, they are selfish for offloading the vulnerable feelings to us, avoiding the potential for rejection while subsequently rejecting us. They are making us hold onto a stink bomb then are repeatedly lighting the fuse and running away.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
