Gosh,

It sounds like the poop is hitting the fan today with a lot of folks and it's making me feel odd .

Re: Hugging Til Relaxed
Until I read about Mojo's H turning it into sex to end it because the intimacy was too much to handle, I didn't really "get it". In all honesty, I was never interested in HTR until Tim mentioned that it can cause more intimacy than sex but I finally think it might be good for us. Actually, I might find myself a little fearful of intimacy...who knows. Who knows...we'll get there in the book. BTW. W was reading PM last night. Probably not too far into yet.

Re: Initiation
This is starting to bother me more and more. In the past, we argued about sex and W would always refer to the fact that I never came to bed with her (for the first 10 years) as an obvious reason why I would miss out on her "horny times". Since Jan, when she indicated that we needed a little more physicality, I've made it a point to be in bed with her every night. Within the past 5 months, she has never initiated anything. Maybe the point to her argument was more metaphorical...she was saying that I was "distant" therefore she didn't want to ML with me. But now she is saying that my involvement in the family and her has made all the difference. So along with her telling me that she is "satisfied", I'm also in the bed now...and still no initiation or sign of spontaneous horniness. I know that our results have looked promising but this is starting to irritate me. I might just be catching the anxiety of others on this topic (which happens here sometimes). I guess I'm wondering if I should ever call her out on this, or just keep being satisfied with the fact that she's basically meeting my minimum desires (per my requests). I understand that the closer we get, the more differentiated I need to be. This might be a "point" to push. Aw heck, I don't know.



Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time -Steven Wright