MM wrote: It's much easier for men to initiate. It goes against all cultural training for a woman to have to do it. ____________________________________
Is it really true that it's easier for men to initiate? I agree that we're conditioned to be the initiators, but do men really find it easy to do?
Schnarch talked in PM (Chap.10) how that some men had "done" other women but never their wives because of their "good girl v. bad girl" ideas. If it was easy for men to initiate because we're "made that way", would the "good v. bad girl" ideas exist?
IOW, men initiate easily with those they perceive as receptive to their advances ("bad girls") but not with those who make them SDHDs (Shot Down HDs), whether in reality or just in their minds. IMHO.
