Dave, Thanks for the ideas! Oils that heat up when you rub them..of COURSE! Sometimes I can be so dense. We have that 'heating up KY' which btw is a lot of hype, and had some of that heatup oil many many years ago (before things went south, and fast) so that will be a good thing to look into. And BLAST IT ALL my birthday was just last weekend. What a good thing to have put on my list, lol. We do have a real thermos though and I actually think that H would like that idea, as weird as it might sound to some!
I think that our spouses deal with sexual uncomfortable-ness with humor. That is a knee jerk response with H, too, and one that has been VERY hard for him to break. He wants to joke his way out of being real with me. And then he wants ME to begin the process of being real and then all he has to do is follow suit, after he has settled down.
Regarding your nightstand, here is another practical question for you: I think your daughter is 5, right? What are your plans as far as storing your goodies? We currently do not have any goodies beyond lube and my vibrator which never sees the light of day, anyway. Or the night light, either! But I would like to slowly incorporate some things into our life (slowly and with much resistance, as evidenced in my "dud" thread) but don't know how to keep them away from little eyeballs. I was even thinking of looking into a nightstand with a lock on it. Personally, I am okay with teaching them to just stay away from M&D's nightstands but I know that H would require something more impenetrable. Like with padlocks and chains and an electric fence around it.
