1. Week In Review Each person talks about how they felt as an individual, then how the felt towards the other person.
2. PM Discussion Simply go though and share any passages that had individual meaning to us.
We both had fine weeks individually and towards each other. I spoke to the fact that my W's period made things difficult but that I appreciated the little ways she worked around it. She said she has been fine with things this past week too.
For PM, W didn't have anything prepared like I did and she simply spoke to the fact that "so far, the book makes sense". I told her the rule about not using passages to analyze each other. So I simply went through and shared some of the lines that spoke to me. This allowed me to elaborate on certain things, thus provide an opportunity to practice HOM. The first 40 pages gave me a chance to repeat the idea that my recent encounters with her have had a new emotional element because PM taught me to remove the cloud of horniness, anxiety control, and validation from LM sessions...this leaves only the emotional connection and has boosted my feelings for my W in ways I've never experienced before. I used a recent session as an example of this. I told her how I would like to have all times be like that and she got a little bit confused thinking that I was imposing a "high standard" or injecting "pressure" due to a goal. I had to explain that it's nothing to do with the mechanics in the bedroom but rather the mentality and that she doesn't have to do anything different and is not responsible for making or breaking the experience. In other words, I was professing to her that I want to ML to "her"...not just ML. I even assured her that this wouldn't dictate style...that we could have sweet sex, animal sex, laughing sex, fun sex and it would be good.
She didn't really "engage" heavily in the discussion which is typical for her. I think she got the point of *what* I was saying, but she seemed to only speak to the fact that she feels more willing to meet my desires. Granted, that's a big step in the right direction. I didn't try to pummel her with my point (because she hasn't read the whole thing like I have), but I started introducing the idea of sexual potential.
I think she *knows* that this process is not just about "increasing frequency" but isn't exactly on board with it yet. I think the length and complexity of PM will give us (her especially) lots of time to acclimate to the more advanced ideas.
At the end of our talk, I asked if she had any other ideas regarding the format of our Monday Night Therapy Session and she said that she thought it was fine and offered no comments about how we could make the session better. Next session, I'm just going to bring notes because right now I just thought of some things that I missed.
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