Quote: She learned to live independently and so did I (comprimised my own integrity). Our domestic enterprise was/is very efficient because we compliment(ed) each other perfectly in our home roles.
It's interesting how this being true can actually deaden the passion in your relationship. My H and I rarely fight about money or division of household labor and we both have hobbies we love but don't share. But it's kind of confusing because it also seems like it should be a critical step towards differentiation.
Quote: She even asked her gyno who asked "can you O?". W said "yes" Gyno: "Then you don't have a problem".
She needs a new doctor!
I think you and I are similar in some ways, Dave. I am a very project oriented person and this is one of the reasons I've been able to "ignore" our sex problems for so long. I would take a promotion at work, start a business, dig a 20 ft. perennial bed, read tthe top 100 novels of the century, try to develop a non-arbitrary number system etc. and be able to put sex on the back burner for a while.
This was probably unfair to our spouses because it seemed to them that everything was OK and then we're suddenly upset about sex again. Really it was never OK and we were just doing a good job of distracting ourselves.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
