It sounds like you are really making progress. I've kind of been developing a new rule of thumb for how well my fellow posters are progressing on this board. The more I am able to imagine their spouses as being real people and not just stereotypical LD spouses, the closer I think they must be getting to making a real "breakthrough" one way or the other.
It seems top me that at some point in your marriage, your wife must have felt the need to withdraw from you for some reason. Being more loving and increasing the level of intimacy overall seems to be working.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
