One more thing, I'm certain the "equally differentiated" topic will come up again in the near future and I'm ready for the game she will try. She's going to invite me to comment on how I think "she" is equally differentiated to me when I'm the one with the obvious validation and self-soothing issues. I'm not going to take the bait on this. I'm simply going to tell her that I truly *believe* it to be true and have some ideas but that it's not for me to discover.
I'm wondering if praising her on the things I think she does well is just as bad...like "you are brilliant at self-soothing" etc. Oddly, self-soothing is the most dangerous thing to be good at because a little anxiety is what puts you into a support group, C and bookstore. Discomfort is a great motivator.
Wow, this is going to be interesting. Have you folks noticed my lull in posting here? I'm about to get some new material.
Here we go!!!! I've got start reading again to catch up.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
