Uncertainties, Wisdom & Allowances

[love_endures4ever]

Hi Pam,

Sorry to hear you're having a down day.

Moving is a pain in the booty isn't it? The last time I moved I took it as an opportunity to throw out everything that I DIDN'T need or use anymore. That I would look at and say "why do I have this?"

It's like a cleansing, getting rid of the clutter. Also, what helped me was doing a little bit at a time, rather than all at the last minute.

Here's to a brighter afternoon.

Cathy

[psluke]

well since I am in a hurry to get out may not have time to throw a lot out. but after I move I am going to get organized.

David has messed up my life for long enough.

[psluke]

Actually not David's fault, but I have never been organized since I met him.

So it is time I got myself organized.

[love_endures4ever]

Okay Pam...spill..what happened? Cathy

[MovinOn]

Pam, What did you do???

[totite]

Hey Pam

Listen to Sage. Don't go into your IRA. You can look into a Home Equity Loan or a Bridge Loan. Don't mess with your retirement account - you know better.

Don't IM D in your current state - in fact, don't IM or communicate with him at all right now. Focus on you. Do what is right for you.

Imagine yourself settled into a new place. You can walk away from the old place with your head held high. Visiualize a new life beginning with this move....

Come on girl - you can do it!

[Phoenix_In_Bloom]

Pam,

David is probably having wild swings of emotions himself. Confused, scared, unhappy. No telling what he's going through.

Don't make yourself an easy target for him and the consequences he must now face.

If you make yourself an easy target, then he won't have to face the consequences of his actions. And it'll be all too easy for him to take out his 'stuff' on you. If you aren't available to be blamed for his stuff...he may just have to face it...by blaming you, he's still running away from facing it. Don't make it easy for him.

Let him stew in his own juices for awhile.

Hugs.

[psluke]

Hi Cathy & Pattie,

I asked him if he got my newsletter and then mentioned the bill for Pattys vet expenses had came in and where did he want me to mail it.

He said I'll pick it up, so then I ASSumed he didn't want me to know where to send the mail.

I am fairly sure he is staying with J now, and the emotions were more than I managed well, combined with PMS.

So I apologized and have finally got off of IM and shut it down.

Just going to focus on packing and getting out of that house.

[psluke]

Hi totite,

I won't pull the IRA unless I have too. I will definitly check other options first.

I called lady I have spoken with on loan but she wasn't at her desk, hopefully she will call me back today.

I still really want to run away but that really isn't an option.

Got to get the papers signed and the house packed and a new place bought. Focus!

Then I can crash if I want too. Maybe by then I won't want too.

[psluke]

Hi PIB,

Shouldn't David be pretty happy right now? He took back all the stuff he offered to try to help me out. Now I get nothing on dental or insurance and he changed the deal on the house. Plus now he is free and it shouldn't feel so crappy to have sex with J now.

I think my best bet for me is to avoid him and try to forget he was ever a part of my life. But I'm not finding that easy to do. I know with time it will be better and probably being out of the house we bought together, knowing it is going to sell will help me some also.