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Hey Pattie,

Got a little bit of work done and went to bed as I was falling asleep over the work.


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Good Morning Slowly,

I feel a bit better this morning. Planning to try to have a good day today.


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Thinking about sending this e-mail. Would like some input on whether I should wait a little bit longer to ask him.

Hi,

Talked with Beth and she is sitting up for me to look at some houses this
week. Wondering if I find something I want to go ahead and make an offer on if
you would consider buying me out of our house?

I am not sure I would be able to get a loan as long as I am on the mortgage
on this house.

I figure if you could give me $xx now and the other $xx - $xx or
whatever after the house sells it would not be that much for you to refinance the house and you could get a better interest rate before it goes up any more.





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Pam --

Morning!

My suggestion is that you do some more due diligence first...check with your bank (perhaps your realtor could guide you, too!) about "bridge loans" -- they are specifically designed to help people make the transition from one house to another. I'm not suggestion you GET one right now but have the pertinent information about it.

Also, you could look into using a home equity line (NOT LOAN) for the same purpose.

After you have that info I suppose you could consider sending the email...at any rate, I would leave off the last paragraph...too much explaining.

Sage


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Sage,

Could you please knock this sad, hopeless feeling out of me?

I know it will pass but gee I hate getting through it.


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Could you please knock this sad, hopeless feeling out of me?






Oh, friend, I wish that I could...

It is as it is, though...sounds to me as though sitting with it is the way to go...can you be gentle with yourself in your sorrow?

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I want to run away really, really bad right now.

At least I trust Beth not to let me buy something unsuitable just to get out of our house.

I also dread the thought of boxing everything up and moving, AGAIN. I am so tired of moving.

I think I have become a nomad.


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So had a fight with David. I HAVE TO GET AWAY AND OUT OF THAT HOUSE BEFORE I GO CRAZY!!!!


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Pam,

Picture yourself in your own house. One that is just the way you want it. Where did you place the furniture? Did you plant new flowers for the summer? ETC....

Please do take the suggestion about the bridge loan. Don't send the last paragraph.


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Hi Pattie,

I am going to check today with the lady on the loan.

I also will probably pull my IRA out to use as a down payment.

I knew I wasn't stable and wasn't managing to hang on.

Sent Cal and Zoo both lots of e-mails.

Should never have signed onto IM today.

He was hateful.


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