Why would D bring J with him? If D does bring J with him, why would it bother you to have her in your house. If you tell D not to bring J, what do you think he'll say?
I personally would not want H's OW in MY house either and really, if D had any sense of decency or respect he would not even think of bring J with him, or letting J invite herself. Really, she HAS no reason to come with him, but then she is an "OW" you never know what they're thinking.
Do you trust D alone in your house?
I'm just asking questions, don't really know how I would react if I was in your sitch though.
Well J has a van so could haul more stuff than D could in his car.
I don't trust her at all as I consider her to be a B*tch who is looking to hurt me any way she can. I think she is a big part of the reason he backed out on all the help he was going to give me on the original settlement.
I trust D if he is alone, I don't trust him is she is with him as she has always been able to tell him what to do.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I do drink coffee, and I'm not sure how much. Between 2 - 3 cups. When it gets cold I dump it so I am not sure how much I get actually. But I only refill 3 times and know I'm not getting 3 full cups.
We don't have decaf here.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I was asking becuase there are days when coffee just makes me higher than a kite, buzzed up. When I am PMS about a week before my period, I can drink it all day long and it really doesn't have much of an affect on me. Now this week and last wekk, postPMS, the caffiene affects me intensely..I can't get calm until it wears off late morning. If it's Starbucks well I'm boucing around the office like a rubber ball, if I was at home I'd be cleaning up a storm.