Uncertainties, Wisdom & Allowances

[psluke]

Ok am I just a paranoid witch or would anyone else be a bit nervous about CHL taking stuff out of the house while I'm not there?

I mean we still haven't separated and sorted stuff and I just have a sort of vulnerable feeling.

Not really sure why or what I think he will take, probably only his stuff.

I also DON'T want Janice in the house helping him while I am still living there!

I asked if he would let me know when going to be in the house and he said he would leave me a note when he has been there. Wasn't really what I meant.

[sage]

Morning Pam...

I asked if he would let me know when going to be in the house and he said he would leave me a note when he has been there. Wasn't really what I meant.

So, tell him what you really meant....

Sage

[slowly]

Hi Pam - Just stoppin by to say Happy Monday. Courage. Slowly

[psluke]

Good Morning Sage,

If I do that won't it look like I am being controlling?

I am trying to just sit with it and work through these feelings.

Basically I trust him. I really think it is more about someone being in where I am living when I'm not there. Does that make any sense?

[psluke]

Hi Slowly,

Thank you!

You brought a smile and that always makes me feel better.

[MovinOn]

Pam,

It is where you are living. So, tell him what you meant. Trust him? MMMMM maybe, maybe not . Why are you concerned about him being there when you are not ? I'm not challenging you. I would feel the same.

[sage]

If I do that won't it look like I am being controlling?

So...ARE you trying to be controlling?

I've found that getting an honest answer from myself about my intentions is a great way to figure out how to approach a situation..

Sage

[Phoenix_In_Bloom]

Good Morning Pam!

Got a little bit more work done on the Labyrinth! Husband agreed to help me. I figured out how to make the digging easier! Wait till it rains!!!

LOL!

Sending you hugs and gentle sunshine!

[psluke]

Hi Pattie,

I am not sure why I am concerned about him being there when I'm not. Maybe it is just a bit of gun shy from everything that has happened?

I really do NOT want J in there while I am still living there and I don't know if he would have her over to help him get stuff out or not.

[psluke]

Hi Sage,

Trying to come up with an answer on this and in a way Yes, I am trying to be controlling because I really do not want J in the house while I am still living there.

So that is controlling who he can invite into his own house.

I am really not sure how to handle this at all.

Today I am probably not going to figure anything out as it is my first day back to work and I am not feeling well today.