I must admit, I have not read the last few pages of your thread...simply caught this last page. but I HAD to chime in. That book, "Passionate Marriages" was given to me by my therapist a year ago. It is amazing. I have really got to tell you that it is well worth reading because he examines the power dynamic between two people in a relationship.
I could go on and on about this book...but I'd rather let you get into it and then, perhaps, we can run some thoughts together on this. It is a VERY challenging approach to marriages, couples... and the concept of growth as being relational.
BTW, he had first titled the book, "Passionate Couples" but the nature of direct talk re: sexuality and power dynamics, etc, had the publishers twisting his arm. They said if you are going to be this blunt and direct about sex and if you want your book to go to paperback, then change the title to "marriages" or we won't go to print.
I think it is a very worthy read, and though I think there is a place for the one size fits all Mars Venus stuff... Passionate Marriages, has us taking on ourselves, IMO, with greater depth and complexity.
Anyway, I am very glad you have found it. Tell me what you think.
