Awe, Slowly , I am so touched that you have been looking for me! Check out my thread: Boundaries and give me some advice. You advice is always welcomed and right on time.YOu have taught me to be Fast to Listen and SLow to Speak.
Hi slowly, I know you are in my time zone. I need urgent advise and I am seeing H tonite. Must plan how to act, react and whether or not to have a R talk. I always look up to you for great advise..
Sometimes the very thing you're looking for is the one thing you can't see..
Hi BnB - Which part of the world are you in that we are in the same time zone?
I'm copying over something incredible HOn had on her thread
Quote: Been reading Forgiveness by Malcolm Smith... very small book with some big ideas:
"Unforgiveness is probably one of the clearest expressions of the insanity of sin. The person we hate knows little or nothing of what is going on, but we are choosing to hurt ourselves again and again and again."
"Bitterness arises from the belief that the person who hurt us owes us and must somehow pay us back."
"It is time to put away bitterness and forgive. How do we do that?
1. We recognize that whatever the other person or persons may have done to us, we are only responsible for how we have acted. We are not responsible for what they did, but we are responsible for harboring bitterness and witholding forgiveness to them. Our unforgiveness is sin and must be acknowledged as such, and forgiveness is received through the blood of Jesus.
2. We can no longer go along with our feelings; it is our will that directs our actions. We must now choose to forgive those who have hurt us, releasing them to God.
Great benefit and relief come when you take time alone to write down the names of the persons who have hurt, abused or violated you in the distant, and not so distant past making a note beside each name as to what they have done - what they owe you.
In the intelligent consciousness of knowing what you are doing, declare that they are released and they owe you nothing. Their sin is canceled through the blood of Jesus, and you canel what He has caneled. At that point, scratch out their name or tear up the paper and celebrate.
3. When thoughts of bitterness, anger and self-pity try to gain access to your mind again, as they will, exercise your authority over them, declaring that the person has been forgiven and you refuse to think on the events of the forgiven past.
Just dropping by to say you are doing an awesome job to making each day better than the last!
I have to admit I was a little when I saw the excerpt you copied from my thread. I guess that's what happens when one airs their dirty laundry in cyberspace or should I say the lack of laundry at all! ... but those were some encouraging words HoldingOn pointed out, weren't they!
(No worries ... just a lighthearted attempt at some humor at my own expense.)
Oh KAW - Please don't feel It was not the subject matter, but how we need to respond that struck me as incredible. I am sooo guilty of doing the same, just don't have the courage to fess up - I just bury my transgressions
Anyhow, some interesting developments over at Nice and Slow. Yesterday, NG tells me he called OW's sister to update her on the sitch. For a while, NG has been telling me that he really does not enjoy being marriage councillor to OW and her H, and he thought OW's sister was the only other likely candidate. OW and her H are on holiday this week with their kids, and NG expects storms next week, and I think really does not want to deal with it. Yeah
As hurtful as it is listening to him talk about OW, and how she needs support etc etc, I do know that my best progress has come from just validating and not arguing. Once he has vented with me, I sense he does not have the interest or energy to go into it all over again with OW. Next week should be interesting.
And oh yes, he forgot that OW's birthday was June 1st. AWESOME. Can I do a little celebratory jig?
Wow - has this traditionally been the quietest week on the board? Piecers mising in action evidenced by locked out threads (sorry, the analyst in me has to have some platform for expression )
Friends Hmmmmm Red Hot Momma 4 Burned Out On Trying The thread w/o a title Boundaries
when I saw the excerpt you copied from my thread. I guess that's what happens when one airs their dirty laundry in cyberspace or should I say the lack of laundry at all! 
... but those were some encouraging words HoldingOn pointed out, weren't they! 
