Hi BnB - Which part of the world are you in that we are in the same time zone?
I'm copying over something incredible HOn had on her thread
Quote: Been reading Forgiveness by Malcolm Smith... very small book with some big ideas:
"Unforgiveness is probably one of the clearest expressions of the insanity of sin. The person we hate knows little or nothing of what is going on, but we are choosing to hurt ourselves again and again and again."
"Bitterness arises from the belief that the person who hurt us owes us and must somehow pay us back."
"It is time to put away bitterness and forgive. How do we do that?
1. We recognize that whatever the other person or persons may have done to us, we are only responsible for how we have acted. We are not responsible for what they did, but we are responsible for harboring bitterness and witholding forgiveness to them. Our unforgiveness is sin and must be acknowledged as such, and forgiveness is received through the blood of Jesus.
2. We can no longer go along with our feelings; it is our will that directs our actions. We must now choose to forgive those who have hurt us, releasing them to God.
Great benefit and relief come when you take time alone to write down the names of the persons who have hurt, abused or violated you in the distant, and not so distant past making a note beside each name as to what they have done - what they owe you.
In the intelligent consciousness of knowing what you are doing, declare that they are released and they owe you nothing. Their sin is canceled through the blood of Jesus, and you canel what He has caneled. At that point, scratch out their name or tear up the paper and celebrate.
3. When thoughts of bitterness, anger and self-pity try to gain access to your mind again, as they will, exercise your authority over them, declaring that the person has been forgiven and you refuse to think on the events of the forgiven past.
