Hey Rottz - Its good to have your take on the sitch, sometimes I think I'm deluding myself that things are going well. To be honest, the continued 'contact' with OW is really bothering me, but I guess I'll leave it be for a while yet.

Journaling Wednesday. A 180 for me - did not think about the previous night's phone call, more importantly did not discuss it to death with NG I dropped him off at the project office, caught up with a couple of my colleagues who are here from Hong Kong, and generally had a good day.

NG was ready to be picked up early afternoon, and after tea, we went to sort out paperwork for the new house. NG actually organized it all, without me nagging - yeah for me, I CAN let go. Actually, life is more pleasantfor me when I do back off. NG did ask me why I was not doing more, I just said I was confident he had it all under control.

Over dinner, he had this teasing glint in his eye, and I KNEW he was dying to tell me what the phone call was all about. OK, I was weak, so I said I'll bite, what did you learn? OW sent him an email in the morning to say that she had muttered NG's name in her sleep on Monday night, and her H was going nuts all day Tuesday. She took off just to have time to herself.

This then led to a 3 hour monologue by NG about the porblems OW was/is having, and how he NG wishes OW and her H had someone else to confide in etc etc. Boy NG can talk. I just did my paper doll impression and listened with wide eyes. Seemed to me like he REALLY needed to talk, and I'd rather he talks to me than OW.

Got me lots of non-verbal attention in bed though, so I guess NG was feeling mightily validated. I had fun, so can't complain.

But, the reality is that contact continues. Hey ho. We are off tonight for 4 days, looking forward to seeing what NG has lined up. Just off for a spot of visiting. Slowly

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