I am sorry that you are still in limbo land with your H. I wish he knows what he wants. But soon decision will be made either by him or by you.
When my W finally made decision to leave 2 weeks ago, I asked her why did not she decide earlier. It would save a lot of my heartaches. I have done my best to do DBing. Instead of drawing my W closer, she has desensitized herself and getting more and more distanced from me. I remember in Dec 2002, she felt ashamed about what she did to the kids and me. Now she thought that her so called "love" to the om can justified verything she does.
I just hope her "love" to the om can last forever. Or oneday when she wakes up, she will regret.
